Well, I've been reading books about "moving forward". First was a Venus and Mars book, "Starting Over". There were some interesting comments about how women are always the caregiver and men need to have a partner. Glad I read it (most of it), but I really don't think the sexes are as stereotypical as they may have been in the past. Mostly I learned how we get ready to start living again and still love our spouse. Now I'm reading "Getting Naked Again". I probably shouldn't write that here, yet I want to be honest about what helps me and how I'm getting through it all. This book is wonderful so far. Some of the things I can really relate to and miss are: being touched, talking about your day, the little complements, flirting, sitting in the same room or the car and not having to talk. So, the only way I'll get to share those things again is to get out into the world. UGH! (I've been in a relationship with Dave Maki for 28 years) and yet it's kinda exciting. My hope is my emotional self will be able to keep up with the intellectual side. I have some work to do.........baby steps.
peace, love, groove
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I think that reading books by people who have experienced what you've gone (and are going) through is an excellent way to help you get to the new place that life will take you. Seeing what fits, and what doesn't, allows you to create a custom framework for you to move forward. Keep reading, and keep sharing. You will be our resource as we all move forward, because this will happen to half of us at one point or another. oxox
ReplyDeleteI love how the blog has evolved...from "how Dave is doing with his cancer treatment" to surviving the loss of a life partner, to learning how to move forward while still honoring and keeping the love. DB is right, by sharing your journey, and with such honesty, you are giving your friends a wonderful gift...a glimpse into a reality most of us do not know firsthand, and also a sense of confidence (or hope?) that if we come to that place ourselves, we may just be able to handle it with the same can-do spirit you possess. Love you.
ReplyDeleteWomen ask for directions and guys don’t. This debate goes on in music also, should you get an education or follow your muse. I have tired both and the education wins. It is part of your psyche to be self-developmental and it is all a learning process. There is love out there in abundance and at the same time a lack of it. Time to shine your light on the world with baby steps!
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